It’s easy to laugh with the comedian, but hard to understand the man: Robin Williams. He was gregarious on the outside, yet tortured on the inside. Why was it such a shock when he committed suicide? He openly revealed his mental illness (MI). The news stunned us because he hid it so well.
The Bible tells us about such concealed torment.
“Even in laughter the heart may sorrow, and the end of mirth may be grief [Proverbs 14:13 (NKJV)]”
The Message translates that verse this way:
“Sure, those people appear to be having a good time, but all that laughter will end in heartbreak.”
Robin Williams’ emotions were like a termite-infested house covered with fresh paint. His delightful demeanor hid destructive pain. People refer to the battle he fought. They say be wrestled with demons. In actuality he struggled with a disease: severe depression. In his mind lived both unbridled humor and inconsolable depression.
Fellow actors speak of his empathy and big heart. Imagine the effort it took for him to give so much in spite of his emotional pain. With his life snuffed out, one bright lesson remains: people with MI can contribute. That should be of some encouragement to those of us raising kids with MI.
But there’s another lesson for all to learn. Something else contributed to his death. What pushed such a seemingly successful man to end his life? He had recently spent time in rehab. But that apparently couldn’t cure him of his depression. Could it be that shame and stigma compounded his inner turmoil?
As mothers who know that shame. Let’s commit to praying for an end to the stigma that surrounds MI.
Dear heavenly Father,
Move in the hearts of people. Build a culture of compassion for those with MI. Restore joy and clarity of thought in the minds of those who suffer with MI. Especially our children.
In Christ’s name, Amen
MI: mom 2 mom 
I can’t speak to Robin Williams’ inner life. I CAN confidently tell you that despite mental illnesses, most people can have extended periods of genuine happiness in their lives: no termites, no masks. Often enough we hide the pain we do experience, but for most illness experiences, the suffering is intermittent and/or quite variable, especially if managed well. I’ve suffered terribly and nearly died from my illness – I knew quite well what would ‘work’ and did it, surviving rather against the odds – yet most of my life since then has been not so different, certainly not worse, than the average without any illness. I’d have to guess, simply playing the odds, that Robin experienced sharp periods of despair, each of which seemed to him terminal. Not so – depression lies – except if you act on such bad information and kill yourself. Then you really are finished. That’s how it works.
Thanks so much for sharing your story. I appreciate your honesty, insight, and words of encouragement. And sincerely hope you’ll continue to “have extended periods of genuine happiness’ in your life.
I plan on it! You learn as you go in life, or you pick up bad habits, or both. Illness is no excpetion. I’ve learned – paid those dues – so it’s gotten much better. Usually works that way – certainly not always, but usually. I always try to play the odds in life, becuase that;s what generally works!