Things shift our focus.
The death of a loved one causes us to look back and reflect.
January 1st signals the time to look ahead.
An airplane window beckons us to look down.
My husband always lets me have the window seat when we fly. On one flight, I stared out the window of the plane and spotted something symbolic. An entire housing development surrounded a baseball diamond. As if to say that the lives of all the residents centered abound baseball. That got me to thinking.
I’ll bet some people’s lives DO revolve around baseball. What does my life revolve around? What’s at the heart of my life?
Like most Christians, I immediately thought of the Lord. My family came in second.
My mind continued to wander.
What do I think about most? What occupies my thoughts? What uses up most of my mental energy? What do I pray most about? What has impacted me the most? What has broken my heart more than anything?
Funny how a mind can wander. Especially when there’s lots of time to think.
It didn’t take me long to answer those questions. My son who has mental illness (MI) has captured much of my energy: mental, emotional, and spiritual. I’m sure that’s the same with you, if you also have a child with MI.
As I think of the year ahead, selecting a New Year’s resolution hasn’t crossed my mind. The date on a calendar won’t change my life-long resolve to be the best mother I can be for Chris (and my other son, his family, and my husband).
People make resolutions, then break them. Moms raising kids with MI can’t afford to break their resolve.
We resolve to continue supporting our vulnerable children. Take them to therapists. Help them adjust to treatments. Advocate for them. Comfort them. Protect them. And pray for them.
What lasts longer than any resolution? A mom’s love. Especially a mom’s devotion to her child who has MI. The more our kids hurt, the more determined we are to help them.
Shakable VS Unbreakable
The mind is involved in listing resolutions. Good intentions drive resolutions. Thoughtful decisions formulate resolutions. Cracks in commitment occur when temptations arise. New priorities cause us to abandon resolutions.
Something much more powerful shapes a mother’s response to her child with MI. Love drives her actions. Motherly instincts solidify her determination to protect and comfort her child. Her love is unbreakable.
So, rather than begin a new year with resolutions, we start each day with our unshakable determination to:
- Worry less, and trust God more
- Succumb to anxiety less, and rest in His peace more
- Watch TV and check out social media less, and seek His Word more
- Strive to design our own plans (for our child’s life) less, and yield to God’s plans more
- Talk less and listen more (to our child and to God)
- Lecture less, and encourage more
Will we succeed every day? Absolutely not! But God’s faithfulness will never fail. At the end of 2016, we will be sure of one thing: God kept all His promises.